4 Reasons why how many people you have slept with does not matter

It Doesn't Change A Person
People aren't defined by the amount of sex they have. Whether the number is closer to 10 or 100, the person remains the same. It is simply the idea of the person that changes. A higher number of partners might be linked to promiscuity and being "easy."
Your view of a person may change once you find out about his or her number, but it shouldn't. Just because someone slept with X number of people doesn't mean he or she can't be the person who makes you happy.
Does it really make sense to judge a person you want to have sex with for the amount of people with whom he or she previously had sex? Think about it.
It Causes Resentment
If, and more likely, when, this discussion comes up, there usually isn't a happy ending. There's bound to be some discrepancy as to what an "ideal" number really is.
One, five, 10, none? No matter the answer, there's a chance that the person you're disclosing the information to won't be happy about it.
SO, why bother creating resentment? Have a high number? Discussing it with your SO could also cause feelings of inadequacy. How does he or she measure up against the X number of people with whom you've already slept? That's what they'll probably be thinking, anyway.
The only thing that should matter is the number of people with whom you're currently sleeping. And, if you're in a relationship, that number should equal a grand total of one.
There's A Double Standard
If a man says he's slept with X women, many people wouldn't give it a second thought. But, if a woman says she's slept with the same number of men, if that number is high, chances are she'll get some flack for it.
Unfortunately, the double standard seems to be that if a man sleeps around, it's a normal, manly thing. But, if a woman does it, she's a slut.
Though this is undeniably unfair, slut-shaming is a real thing that unfortunately still happens all too often. Just remember: your body, your choices. Save yourself the effort of having to justify them.
IT'S PERSONAL
No explanation needed.
There's a reason why the past is the past. A person's sexual history is just that: history. The notion that a man or woman whom you view as ideal would be thought of differently once you discover his or her number of sexual partners just doesn't make sense.
So, let's all stop putting so much emphasis on needing to know. If ignorance is truly bliss, then being ignorant about one tiny detail can't be that bad.
While many things are purposeful in the bedroom, trust me, math isn't one of them
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