How Anita Oyakhilome endured fifteen years of an adultr*ous husband, finally gets to tell her side of the story

Anita Oyakhilome, the frustrated wife of Nigeria's
most flamboyant preacher, Chris Oyakhilome has
obviously passed through 15 years of adulterous
endurance and what she needs is our prayers and
protective respect and defence of her choices to
forget all the anti-rhapsody of heartbreak she
endured all these years.
Fifteen (15) years of being abandoned by a preacher
husband is not an easy way of life for a preacher's
wife. Fifteen (15) years of hearing that some mini
skirted daughters of Jezebel have taken over your
possession is not a joke.
Fifteen years of a husband not staying with the wife
for up to a week on a stretch, while spending time
with some double breasted figure eight(ed)
daughters of eve is not an easy thing to swallow.
15 years of being used as a showcase to make
church members believe in Rhapsodies of Blissful
Union, while dying in silence, is not a palatable
experience for any woman.
Fifteen years of being called Mama, Mummy, and
other glorified names of Senior Pastor's wife while
some domestic harems sneer at the same Mummy
behind is not a sweet experience. For goodness
sake, this woman never probably had a good kiss in
fifteen years and yet she is being accused of
carnality for crying out loud. She was continually
being led into temptation of seeking for s*xual
satisfaction from outside for fifteen years and she
managed to escape the traps of sin.
Fifteen years when their two lovely daughters would
wake up and ask their mother why Dad had not
cared to visit, and she would have to release a lie to
stave off the frequent probing questions. Above all,
fifteen years when Anita had to fake that all is well
with their marriage, while she is actually dying
emotionally. Every person she complained to
among the pastoral cadre sided with the man, and
she was left alone to bear her cross.
I warned some pastor friends with Christ Embassy
early 2013 that they had better settle this marriage
rift between Oga and his wife before it destroys the
church. The same pastors have called me to
express regret that a national embarrassment has
ensued.
This woman has been called Jezebel by some
pastors and members of the church. Some claimed
she was disrespectful while others claimed she was
always bitter of recent. They have tried to castigate
her before members of the church who came in
private to ask for the way out. She was described as
unreasonable and insubordinate.
Her husband, according to news reports has even
followed to cast her in bad light. According to
Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, "Bitterness is prolonged
and accumulated anger. My wife is always angry
and bitter," Going further he told his members to
"Be careful of the friends you keep. My wife keeps
friends who bring out the worst in her and help her
see the worst in people, instead of keeping friends
that will help her vision, especially as the wife of a
global pastor like me."
Please, which preacher woman who has been
abandoned for fifteen years will not be bitter and
angry? Was Anita expected to clap and dance while
some hot legs are parading around the White
House?
This pastor's wife was also disclaimed by her
husband who told his congregants in reaction to
the divorce saga that Anita is not necessarily a
Woman of God. According to Pastor Oyakhilome
"Don't act like those people. If you are married to a
man of God, it doesn't make you automatically
mature. You can make mistakes; you can do
something that is wrong. But some people expect
the wife of a minister to definitely be at the level of
that minister and so they may be looked upon and
the expectation may be like that, but it's a positional
thing". He clarified his theory by saying that "If a
man of God is married, it doesn't automatically
mean that the wife of a man of God is therefore a
woman of God. That's not the way it is in the Bible."
Pastor Chris also added that "That's why you don't
really find the wives of men of God mentioned in
the Bible. How many of them? Who was Peter's
wife, did you ever know her name? You never find
that out. Who was John's wife? Did you ever read
the name? What about all the other Apostles? How
many of their names are written in the Bible. You
never find their names."
Anita Oyakhilome actually proved that she has fear
of God in the manner she worded her divorce plea.
She opted to use the word "inappropriate
relationship with female staff members" instead of
out rightly accusing her husband of adultery.
According to the statement, "the wife has discussed
with the husband his appropriate relationship with
some of his female staff members. She has
explained that this has given her cause for concern.
The husband has minimised her worries and taken
no step to alleviate her grievances."
Anita Oyakhilome could have said that her husband
abandoned her and ran into the arms of sister A or
B, or gospel singer C or D and left her roasting and
murmuring in the house. Anita could have said that
her husband is a hypocrite who says a thing and
means another, but she veiled her grievances of
years of abandonment by saying in the divorce file
that "The wife feels that she has been used to
portray and enhance the husband's image as a
family man when the reality is that there is no
existing relationship between them. She feels that
she has been present for official functions simply
for his convenience. On occasions she has been
copied into his travel itinerary which has been given
to him by his staff on a need to know basis". "The
wife has tried to discuss her concerns with the
husband. He claims that she is carnal and he is
insensitive to her feelings and her needs."
Thus Anita had acted with much restraint in order
to preserve the integrity of Christ Embassy and the
work of evangelism, and all she got for her
discretion was hate messages from many sections
of church members who wanted her to sacrifice her
marriage to keep them in a rhapsody of deceit.
This woman, according to the testimony of many
British residents whom I spoke to and claimed they
attend their church, is one person who is always
willing to give gifts to the needy. She is ever ready
to counsel people and does not breed class. She is
a patient listener who laboriously introduced many
things in the church for which the glory goes to her
husband. Londoners believe that she is not that
demon they want to portray her as. Those who
know her closely have attested to an affectionate
good naturedness and stickler for details. She was
said to have lived a life of cautious display of
affluence and rather preferred to build people and
give to the less privileged, a course that did not go
down well with some of their pastors in the UK. She
also frowned at promiscuity among ministers of the
gospel and some randy pastors in UK did not like
what they called her 'judgemental interference'
Whatsoever thing some misguided church
members want to think, Anita had lived a lie for
many years. Anita was said to have became born
again at Believers Loveworld campus fellowship at
Ambrose Alli University Ekpoma, while Chris was
the pastor. She had probably paid her dues as a
Christian and knows what it is to deceive the
congregation. She cannot deceive herself and the
church anymore thus she opted for divorce.
Divorce, according to scripture is unbiblical, but
between deceiving a congregation that already
knows the truth but pretends otherwise and staying
in unfulfilled marriage, which is better. It is a
matter between her and her conscience.
Last year, a Nigerian personality blogger by name
Ese Walter was lured by her Senior Pastor in Abuja
into a cosy hotel bed space in London and after two
weeks of adultery, the man cleaned up, returned to
Nigeria and told his congregation to shout some
Hallelujah. The sin partner was arrested by the Holy
Spirit and she sought a meeting with the COZA Chief
to resolve the burden of guilt. She was continually
shunned and described as agent of Satan even by
other senior pastors in the church until she turned
the internet into the confessional. Ese Walter freed
her conscience and probably escaped eternal
damnation but the entire Christendom took the
brunt of the exposure.
Pope Benedict made several attempts to stop the
incidences of homos*xual paedophiles among
priest and leaders in the Vatican. His attempts were
rebuffed by a cabal of officials who resisted probe
and pious change. In exasperation, the Pontiff
abandoned the Papacy and triggered the change
that is being forced down on the resisting cabal.
Pope Benedict freed his conscience and left with
clean records before his God.
Anita has chosen to free herself from a life of deceit
and lies. The truth had set her free. However, I still
counsel her that if the misbehaving preacher
husband demonstrates a verifiable change of heart,
she should consider him back and so that
somebody can shout some more Hallelujah. Fifteen
years of adulterous endurance in the midst of
charismatic rhapsody is not easy and Anita
Oyakhilome sure needs all the defence and
understanding she can get- Let somebody shout a
better Hallelujah !
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